Bud Sex: Men who have sex with men and are not gay (or so they say)
GAYLES.TV.- I wrote Lucía Etxebarria a very successful article entitled «Budsexers, repressed homosexuality, misogyny and machismo»In which he qualified the alleged rapists of The pack as budsexers.
«What they wanted was to see each other's cock. Because they are so repressed that they can not recognize their homosexual part. Because they cannot recognize that they love to see another man excited, having sex, having an orgasm », explains Etxebarria. And adds: "The budsexers they're so homophobic because everything that sounds like homosexual they panic. That's why they invented this strange game of «I have sex with men, but it's not really sex«. They are macho because they despise what they understand as feminine: homosexuals who are not ashamed of being so and women ».
But are they all budsexers repressed homosexuals? It would be a mistake to label it only like that. There will be everything, although those who practice it flee from this definition. It is curious to see how despite having sex with other men they strongly reject gay behaviors.
Judith Butler posted about the Bud Sex than "Sexual intercourse is a tremendously complex act in which sensations such as attraction or repulsion often manifest themselves, sometimes leading to the case that disgust, desire and fear intermingle in the same carnal encounter, this may be the case of many budsexers«.
The profile of the budsexers
The famous American sexologist Joe Kort classified the practitioners of Bud Sex o Sex among colleagues in the following profiles: victims of sexual abuse in childhood, sex workers, men who want to experience their sexuality, first-timers, loss or abandonment of the father figure, men attracted sexually by men, but emotionally and romantically by women, narcicists, sexual addicts, fanciful complainants, exhibitionists or men with sexual needs as in jail.
A study of the University of Oregon He also analyzed these types of relationships and found common patterns of behavior. Who practice it see the Bud Sex as a esporóadico game, an entertainment, a fun or a hobby. Avoid kisses and any display of affection or possible emotional connotation. They are occasional outlets. that are not usually practiced with regular regularity, the desire is satisfied when the opportunity. Many of these practices are done under the influence of alcohol or drugs.
The famous scene of Torrent «We make ourselves some straws. No fags, huh?»Is the clear example of homophobia that is hidden behind Bud Sex. I hope society is not so Cro-Magnon.
Sources: El Periodico, El Mundo, Shangay
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