EDITORIAL GAYLES.TV.- The couple as we know it is still a relatively recent social construction. The myth of romantic love was born in the West not so long ago, at the beginning of the 18th century Daniel Defoe claimed that the marriage was "legalized prostitution" and it was not very wrong if we considered that the usual thing was to arrange marriages between families, to change daughters for land or for animals, a practice that certainly continues in many non-Western countries. But with the birth of the ideal of romantic love to the subject of the contract pure and hard is added sentimental sauce with all the good but also everything negative that behaves.
Jealousy, possessiveness, the concept of infidelity, abuse, and submission are often given in the name of that sacrosanct concept of infatuation. To such an extent the couple as we know it is a social invention, which the human species is the only one in nature that applies the concept of sexual monogamy, although it is true that there are cases of social monogamy like some couples of birds. Science has demonstrated beyond doubt that the idea of fidelity is absolutely artificial and distances us from our most basic animal instinct. In fact, on the planet today, there are various social models that break our monogamous structure: the polygamy of the Arab countries or the Mormons is known, but we know less of the polyandry that is the inverse situation where the coexistence between a woman and several men or matriarchal structures still in force in which groups of women live with their children and only occasionally receive their lovers.
Faced with this situation, voices are beginning to emerge and people who bet on another model, polyamory, a tendency to rise but not just accepted socially. Last week at the University of Coimbra and within the framework of the congress "Queering Partnering" we talked about the "Intimate Project" that, with the financing of European Research Council, aims to make an analysis of the different forms of relationship and coexistence of the LGBTQ community in Spain, Italy and Portugal. One of the main conclusions was that homosexuality has greater social acceptance than non-monogamy for the simple reason that homosexual couples reproduce the traditional model.
What does suppose a true revolution of coexistence, sexuality, affections and relationships, ultimately of the social scheme, is what is called polyamory. A good definition is given by Giazú Enciso, activist, researcher and psychologist at the University of Barcelona where he published his thesis with the title of "Polyamory, affections and emotions": "a definition of Polyamory can be that of a relationship of more than two people at the same time. Of love and commitment, and not necessarily sexual. Where all the people involved know and agree to be in that relationship. " That is, it would not be simply to raise promiscuity to the category of social structure, not to fuck as many people as possible, but to love more than one person at the same time and that has some kind of legal recognition.
There are already several groups and associations of both play and advocacy that advocate not limiting certain rights to a particular type of relationship and for this they ask for legislative changes. Karen Moan, spokeswoman for the group "La Madrid" says: "We do not believe in marriage as an institution, although we respect those who choose it. Our efforts, as activists, are more in line with ensuring that legal custody of a child can have more than two people, or that poly unions have the same rights as domestic partners. "
It is a delicate and multifaceted subject, with many controversial aspects, not only the legal but also the psychological, sexual and anthropological to mention only a few. But what is clear is that models of coexistence are constantly changing and with all certainty in the future we will hear a lot about what for many @ s is already being a real alternative, polyamory.
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That is not poly love is polisexo, the love of a couple is exclusive and loyal, faithful and jealous, God is wise and made the exclusive sexual relationship of two, no one can serve two masters, because he sticks to one and hates the other.