EDITORIAL.- This week we brought you a video of a boy telling his father that he was gay over a cup of coffee. Are you thinking of leaving the closet and do not know where to start? Are you afraid of the consequences? Do your friends know it but not your family or vice versa? Coming out of the closet is a very personal decision that everyone must make or not according to their needs, convictions or vital moment. On the other hand, it is not the same to do it at 15 years old in a not very tolerant school environment or at 40 if you are married or do it public at work, with your parents, in a city, in a small town. There are as many possible outlets as there are individuals and although you can have an opinion on the subject, you should not sit in a lecture on whether or not to do so, each with his life.
Anyway, there is something that is common to most gays and lesbians and is that normally one day does not come out of the closet and that's it, we spend our lives in genitive, going out, visualizing. Either because we change jobs, because we join a new activity of leisure, because they introduce us to unknown people. Obviously, it is not always necessary to record the entry of our sexual orientation, but sooner or later the subject ends up coming and decides to decide whether we pretend or we limit ourselves to showing who we are at risk of suffering misunderstanding or rejection. The good news is that there is more and more acceptance and fortunately you can start living without having to "disarm", simply because there are people who have never been inside.
But if it is not your case and you are thinking about doing it, here are some common sense tips that can help you.
- Do not play catastrophic movies ahead of time, the chances are that they do not react very badly or even that they are happy that finally you share something that already intuited.
- The cotton test. Start with your best friend, among other things because if you do not know yet what kind of friendship is that? If you react badly you can keep changing friends and if you take it well you already have an accomplice.
- First of all, keep calm. There are people for everything and some parents may fall from the cherry when you say it and join San Quentin, you calm down, as if it were not with you. If they scream, they cry and they tear their clothes, you stay like a buddha, they will pass to you and if you enter the cloth only conse
You will make things worse. - Do not obsess over the right time. It is not necessary to be solemn about the stick "We have to talk", normally it is much better if it comes up "spontaneously". Take advantage of a program on TV on the subject, or a comment on a news item or just be original and take a chance. Who can react badly to a birthday cake with 18 candles and the text "by the way, I'm gay" or "I'm them" ...? You blow out the candles and ask "what, do we toast?"
- Finally, if you feel you are tired of hiding and leading a double life but you move in a hostile environment (especially if you are a teenager), try to advise you and seek help in associations or publications. The Internet is full of references and lists of places where they will be happy to lend a hand.
But above all take your time, it does not come from a day, nor from a week or even months, it's about internalizing that you have the right to be who you are and to live your life openly, without cabinets and without lies. When you feel the force of that conviction inside you, then yes, kick the closet door and go outside to breathe.
Luck!
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I love the kind of advice they provide…. Keep in that way..!! When going through that stage it was something very hard since I decided to go trans directly ...